The blog no longer exists, but thanks to the magic of the Wayback machine, I’ve been able to find the entry where she tiptoed out of the closet in October 2007.
The girlfriend she refers to is Melanie Goldstein, who works as an editor on the Fox show, 24. They’ve been together since 2006 and in 2009 announced plans to wed (albeit without any actual recognition — the plan was to wed in Texas). It apparently has not happened, because in a recent interview at the GLAAD awards, Kirsten points to Melanie and still calls her “the fiancée”.
On meeting Melanie:
“I remember looking at her across a table and just thinking, ‘Oh shit — oh shit! — everything is going to change.’” And it did — gradually.
Soon after, Vangsness broke up with her beau (they remain good friends), but an initial attempt to be pals with Goldstein fell flat, and the two did not speak for three years.
When they finally ran into each other again, Vangsness turned to the written word.
“I sent her an apology letter — you know, because when you come out, you kind of lose your mind. You turn into a 13-year-old again. So I sent her this apology note. She was living her life, and I was living my life, and I didn’t expect things to happen. I was just saying, ‘Hey, I’m sorry, and I just wanted to let you know that I’m out now, and I think I’m more sane, and I just wanted you to know that and to say that I’m sorry.’ So I was just sort of cleaning up my stuff.”
The note obviously worked, as Vangsness and Goldstein just marked their two-year anniversary together.
from AfterEllen (written in 2008)
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